You dwell or you don’t. Simple, but it’s your decision.
I’ve jumped heaps of obstacles in my life, trying to fix things for the better, taking too much time trying to understand why things happened the way they did, or trying to find an answer. And of those times, I never did. It’s like whenever I heard that saying, “It is what it is…” I never understood it. I cringed with disgust everytime I heard someone say that… because…. what is IT? Someone, please, elaborate.
That was me dwelling yay back in the past. I sufferred with emotions, I lacked purpose, and I walked under a big dark cloud whenever I felt like that. It’s a really sad place to be.
It took me a while to find the light, but I found it. I’ve learned to make lemonade with apples and fill glasses up as full as I can. I’ve learned to dance in the rain when it pours and embrace the showers. I can move on with life when a mishap falls in my plate, it’s a fun approach and you can’t go wrong. The best part, I know what “IT” is… I get it now, I just don’t think too hard.
The other day I was thrown into a curveball situation that sort of adjusts my life quite a deal. I didn’t know what to think of it, so I went through my days of depression and upset and kinda just let it sit in until I had answers for myself. It was reminiscent of that same “dwelling” feeling I used to feel. Bleh, why did I decide to dig into that avenue? Not sure. But I attempted to do everything I can to fix it. A tiring process, but in the end, I figured it was worth the shot. If I was going to make this attempt to fix it, I needed to remember to not beat myself up if I didn’t get the result I wanted, and I needed to remember to think of it as a “win-win” situation. Try my best, but be optimistic.
Moving forward, I didn’t get the result I wanted…. but, I can’t dwell on that, I can only make the best of this situation and the decision. Accept and move on…. and win.
It takes some time to learn to feel like this. It’s not a sense of carelessness, it’s really just another way to approach life. I feel OK and I’m not mad at myself. I can move on now.
Sorry for the broad storytelling. This is my simple preach to the world, life’s too short to dwell…. but it’s your choice.